Disappointment, confusion and anger in ultra orthodox Jewish marriages

Within the Orthodox Jewish community, marriages are often arranged through a shidduch process. This process takes into account the wishes, hopes, and expectations of parents, including levels of religious observance and the backgrounds of the respective families. While many such marriages are successful, many are not.

This paper is largely based on clinical experience and anecdotal evidence in which couples have reported feeling unheard and unseen. These experiences can lead to frustration, psychosexual mismatching, and sexual dysfunction, as well as feelings of loss of agency and entrapment among young newlyweds. As a consequence, mental health concerns may emerge, influenced by confusion and disappointment in young adults who have often received insufficient relationship and sex education.